When you want to make a guy horny, you have to understand that not all guys are turned on by the same things. You have to find the right strategy to get your guy horny without acting like a slut or being weird.
How to Get Your Guy Horny
The first thing that you want to do is set the mood. Find a place to be that will turn your guy on and make him interested in you. The best place is not going to be a public place like a football or basketball game. This will be a place you like to go and have fun, but this place most likely won’t turn your man on.
If you can find a corner in a dim restaurant or at the bar, this will help to make your man horny. Go home and set the table with rose pedals and soft music. Setting the mood will help make him horny. If you find yourself asking, “will this place make him horny or not?” then you are on the right track.
Some of the best places you can take your man to set the mood are:
- The beach
- A quiet bar or restaurant
- Your place
- His place
These are just a few ideas, there are many other places that you could go.
Smell
Make sure that the place smells inviting and sexy. Light some candles or put on some soft perfume. Put on some lotion that he likes and make sure the room has a light and exciting smell.
Looks
Look your best. Dress up and put on something that he won’t be able to forget. Turn on the lights with a little glow or light some candles. Make the room look sexy and inviting. Don’t have too much light and don’t have it too dark.
Taste
Get some strawberries or fruit. Do something that makes him think differently. If you want to do favored lube, this can work as well. Consider some foods that are a great aphrodisiac.
Sounds
Play something exciting from his play list. Put the music quietly on in the background. Play some porn in the background. Talk quietly to sound sexy.
Touch
Use silk sheets or put on something that is silky that he can touch and take off. Don’t forget to make sure the room is the right temperature and is not too cold or too hot.
Dressing Right
Always think about how you look. Guys are sight oriented and what you wear can turn him off or on. Don’t be frumpy or slutty looking but wear the perfect outfit.
Dressing sexy for your man can show off your good parts such as:
- Leggings to show off the butt
- Cleavage showing tops
- Bras to make the breasts look bigger
- Heels
- Skirt
- Make-up
You always need to be fixed up and look your best when you are trying to get your guy horny. You can also choose to go with lingerie tat is sensual and a turn on for most guys. The best idea is to pick out a piece that will show off your best body parts.
You can bring lingerie and stockings and heels and guys think this is very sexy. Remember, you need to be comfortable in whatever you wear so that it can go on and come off just as easy. If it is hard to get off, that is a turn off.
If you put on layers, your guy can take them off one at a time and you can entertain him with a lap dance while he is doing this.
Touching
Always touch him with seductive touches. Start before you even think about sex. Don’t grope him or be weird, just touch him softly on his arm or on his leg.
Here are some ways you can touch him to get his interests peaked:
- Touch his arm barely
- Touch his hand when you are talking
- Put your hand on his leg for a couple of seconds
- Sit close with your legs touching his
- Rest your hand on his legs for a few seconds while you are talking
All of these touching ideas can get our man turned on without you being weird. When you do this with the right mood, you will bring yourself to his mind and he will be thinking about you all night long.
When you are confident that he wants to have sex, you need to be more passionate and put your body against his or grind up against him. Touch his penis through his pants and give him a blow job.
Focus on parts of his bodies that turn him on like his nipples or around his balls. Direct touch will get him horny and when he isn’t picking up your cues, this is a fast way to get him there.
Be Pushy
Be pushy but not too pushy. Let him know that you are interested in having sex with him. He might miss your cues and you may have to be more direct.
When you walk in his bedroom naked, chances are that you are wanting sex. When he sees you without clothes, he will get horny. Undressing yourself in front of your man will most likely get you laid. Women will initiate sex way more often than men do so doing this can make you feel powerful and make him feel that you are sexy.
Remember How You Feel
You need to remember your own needs. Whatever makes you horny, do it. Many women will only worry about what the guy wants and will forget her needs. Do what makes you happy, take a bath together or watch porn together. Send him text messages that show that you want to be with him and you are waiting for him.
Masturbate for him if this turns you on. Buy some toys and sexy clothing to wear for him. Talk about different fantasies and have fun with him.
You can always loosen him and yourself up with a drink, not a bunch, but just one to lighten up the mood. Then, when you are ready, give him a massage. Don’t be overbearing but make him feel excited.
Conditioning
If you are sleeping with your guy a lot, you can sexually condition him. You can do this by doing something before you sleep together like play a sexy song or put a certain smell on. Then, when you do these things, your man will get horny right away and know it is time for sex.
This can cause him to get an erection anytime he sees or hears these things, so be careful what you pick as a cue.
Avoid Stereotypes
Some mistakes women make are that they don’t know how to make a guy horny and they will believe what the movies say. They think if they put on high heels that their guy will want to have sex.
If you meet a girl wearing all leather or high heels, chances are this would make you feel weird instead of turning you on. Don’t try to be like the movies.
Laughter
Laughter is good and it can be a great way to get close to your guy, but it does not make him horny. If there is too much going on, he can lose his sexual connection to you. Too much talking is distracting, and you need to not be goofy or silly or talk too much.
Signs
You will know if you are making your guy horny because he will get an erection where his nipples and penis is hard, he will get red in the face and flushed, his breathing will get shallow and quick, his heart rate will increase.
Most guys will show the same types of signs when they are getting horny. If he starts grinding against you or touching you, you have made him horny.
When He Doesn’t Want It
Sometimes guys aren’t into it right then. Be direct and see if he wants to have sex. If he doesn’t, he might say no. If he tells you no, move on with life and don’t feel rejected. This could mean he isn’t in the mood or he is upset about something.
Something could be stopping him from having sex such as being sick or not feeling well. You can try next time. If he stops having sex with you all the time, that is different. Find out why he is not focusing on you and if this keeps up, see a therapist or move on.
Doctor
If you have no issues in your relationship but your man still does not want to have sex, you need to find out if he has a medical condition. Find out if he is able to function sexually and why he is not getting an erection.
Men need to discuss their issues with their doctors and try to find out what they can do to fix things.
Talking to his doctor can be embarrassing but he might find out that he is depressed or has medicine that is causing him not to get hard. Even sickness can cause a role in not being able to be erect.
Talking to the doctor is important and can help solve what is going on.
Science
Science tells us that arousal happens at different times and that men can be horny at different times. According to the Sexual Response Cycle, men have four phases they go through: Excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution.
These cycles show how a guy gets horny and after he orgasms, he has a hard time getting hard again. The longer he cums the harder it is to get hard.
Men have a longer refractory period than women do, and women can have many orgasms one after the other. A woman is different than a man and do not go through the same things.
Spontaneous Desire
Spontaneous desire is when you just feel a desire come along. Even if you aren’t thinking about sex, the thought comes, and this happens a lot to men. They get turned on for almost no reason.
If your man has spontaneous desires, he can get horny for no reason and this allows you to be able to fool around.
Responsive Desire
Most women have responsive desire, and this is when the desire shows up, they will want to have sex later. After you start making out with your guy, then you get turned on.
A woman can respond to a thought or a sexy scene or a movie. Having response desire doesn’t mean there is no desire, it just means something needs to be responded to.
Dual Control
There is something called a dual control, and this is when the sex drive has two parts. The first part is that when he has a sex drive, he becomes Horney and the second part is the sexual inhibition system and this is like breaks for sex. A guy can get turned off as fast as he can get turned on.
You will see that most men do not have this problem though and are easily aroused and will want to have sex with you.
Concordance
The arousal concordance is when you feel aroused even if your body isn’t showing it. This can happen when the blood flows around your penis or vagina and you are horny even if your body is not showing the arousal.
Some men and women have this, and it can mean that your guy is horny even if you don’t know it. At some point, his penis will respond to you and you need to stimulate him to make it work faster. One thing to remember though, an erection does not always mean a guy is horny.
