Learn to be real with yourself and learn to face your own reality. Many people have their own idea of what is real and when they do this, they face a life of regret and disappointment. They are always looking for a better life and they can’t wait for things to happen....
When everything feels like a demand, choose one thing that keeps costing you time, money or attention. Decide what you want to make room for before you cut anything.Reduce what keeps pulling your attention backIf old messages or social feeds regularly leave you upset,...
Jealousy can show up when a friend starts a relationship, a colleague gets an opportunity or a partner spends time elsewhere. You may feel afraid of being replaced, disappointed about something you want or unsure where you stand. Having the feeling does not make you a...
Emotional pressure can make it difficult to choose freely. Someone may repeatedly use guilt, threats, humiliation or confusing accounts of events to push you towards what they want. You do not need to diagnose the person or prove a hidden motive before taking the...
A conversation about someone who is absent can serve different purposes. You might be asking for support, arranging help or passing on information they wanted shared. It can also become an exchange of rumours, private details or guesses that the person has no chance...
Hearing gossip can leave you curious, uncomfortable or unsure what to say. You may worry about someone’s privacy while also wanting to support the person speaking. Those concerns need more thought than a rule that listening is always wrong. You cannot control...
Waiting for news, facing a change at work or not knowing where a relationship is going can leave you searching for an answer you cannot yet get. Uncertainty may include opportunities, but it can also involve real loss, risk or practical difficulty. You do not have to...
Wanting regular contact with a partner does not make you “clingy.” Wanting an evening alone does not make someone uncaring. The useful question is whether you can discuss closeness and space in a way that leaves both people room to choose. Instead of trying to look...
Reaching your goals can be one of the best feelings in the world but the truth is, when you are trying to reach your goals, sometimes it is easy to become unmotivated and to feel like you are failing. No matter what kind of goal or project you are involved in, when...
Feeling stuck can come from doing the same thing for too long, having too many decisions to make or facing a real limit on time, money or support. Start by identifying the part of your life that feels hardest to move. Describe the problem in one sentence “I want a new...
